GENDER ROLES (more thoughts about Gen 2)

From Sept 2012 while reading an earlier post about the Creation Story.
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More thoughts about Gen 2..


~ Perhaps that's why God made man to be visual.. to be so greatly affected by sex.. and yet at the same time he was given the authority over the family.. so that he could guard the good of the family more effectively..

Kinda goes back to that saying about keeping your enemies close.. maybe men were given a greater discernment concerning sexual sin because they were given the authority to war against it.. to protect the family and the image of God in all the earth.


~ Yes, God designed sex to be amazing.. but maybe our mindset has been more corrupted towards it than we realized.. maybe the stronger sex drive wasn't given to men for their pleasure.. maybe God gave it to them so they could be better leaders and protectors of the family and the glory of God...


~ On the other hand.. maybe men have been criticized by women for the wrong reason concerning their obsession with sex.. maybe that strong drive is a gift of discernment that God wove into their being as men.. maybe it's not a negative thing that sex remains in the forefront of their minds.. rather if they commit those thoughts and guard them and the family, they are creating a solid barrier that he...ll can't penetrate. Hell can't seduce a man who has submitted his sexual desires to his wife as his family and to God. Men declare the glory of God in all the earth.. love your wives..

wow..

maybe that is the key, part of the true revelation of that command.. if men could do that it would protect the family, preserve the image of God it was created to reflect, and declare God's glory to everything in heaven and in hell and in all the earth. Cool stuff to think about.


~ Think about it.. it's kind of like the purpost of fasting.. when you fast.. your body craves food.. it reminds you many times during the day and night that you want that food.. but you take those thoughts captive and you use those hunger pains and cravings to declare to God and to hell that you want the will of God more than that food.. it keeps you in continual fervent.. genuine.. prayer, because... the food remaining in the forefront of your mind keeps you disciplined to keep the will of God in the forefront of your mind...

For men, if they discipline their thought life in the same manner.. how many times a day would they think about their wife and family and how to improve their sex life, what areas of weakness might need attention in their marriage, petitioning God to help their intimacy and passion and fire in the bedroom be better.. and knowing he will answer in huge ways even concerning sex with your wife.. God designed it, he gets it.

Oh, and women.. don't even get me started on our role of submission and the blessings of getting to serve in the role of "one called alongside to help."


~ A woman's role of submission and the blessings of getting to serve in the role of "one called alongside to help." Women's intuition gives glory to the wrong one.. it's not a woman thing.. it's a God gift thing.. we are given insight so that we can help more effectively, so that we can help our husbands connect the dots of what God has said and what is happening in our families.. but we all too oft...en become know it alls and we grab the reigns of authority when that's not our role.. we help by putting truth and wisdom on the table as God reveals it.. but then we have to take our hands off of it and leave it between God and our husbands.. that's submission. We are told to submit because as we do, we give our husbands room to hear God and to lead.. and that is our role in protecting the family, men protect by loving.. women help them by submitting.


~ That's why God commanded men to love their wives, and for women to submit to their husbands. By doing those two things it causes safeguards to fall into place and sets the stage for each to fulfill the purpose of the gender role that God designed. Yes, God created gender roles in a marriage and between men and women... why do you think women are wired to have babies and men are more burly and stronger.. why women are driven to dive into the spirit and emotion of situations while men are always compartmentalizing things as tho they are setting up a war camp.. it all bleeds over a little in terms of giftings and talents.. but God designed men and women differently physically, socially, and mentally.


~ So many factors involved in the whole network.. men have to guard themselves against pride and calling their wives nags and bitches.. the Holy Spirit models being a helper.. and that is what a woman is called to do.. to remind her family of the word of God. Women have to guard themselves agaisnt the same pride and demanding that men do what they want.. like it or not.. it is the man who was given ...authority (the last word) in matters concerning the welfare of the woman. He better consider her thoughts and feelings and be sure he is acting in love.. but the woman better know when to shut her mouth and leave it between her husband and God. Even if she has tried to sincerely reason with him in good conscience before God and she feels he is not making the wisest decision.. she needs to trust God to cover her family and to talk to her husband. If he is acting foolishly or in arrogance and refuses to hear God, he definitely won't hear anything his wife has to say.

~ But if she is praying and sincere in her submission and her love for God and her husband.. God will guard her, and he will deal with her husband.

~ And by the same token, if a woman twists or rages or whines or whatever to get her way out of arrogance or selfishness.. God will guard the man and he will deal with the wife. He always disciplines with love.. but you will definitely say ouch and never forget that trip to the woodshed with God.


~ This is all stuff that plays out in the life of a marriage/family.. but when abuse enters into the picture.. there are other lines of authority and submission that come into play. No man or woman is required by God to remain in a situation that is life threatening to them or their children. Self defense is biblical.